Sorry for leaving this thread hanging...

We had some emergency issues we've been dealing with over the past week... we had to make a decision and we did go with performancehosting... so far..... we are pleased...

We are leasing the server... we had the needs I outlined above but not the capital to purchase all the software liscencing...

Anyway, thanks to those who responded.. and we may be looking into your other recommendations soon as we outgrow this server.

Respectfully....